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faymouse
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 Posted - 10 Jul 2015 : 9:15:57 PM
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Really miss my beautiful boy Desert Drifter. lost him in january at age 22 to twisted gut. He was so well and full of life prior to that and I imagined he would see me through my riding days. He had his foibles but a superb character. He was always happy to hack alone and in company and it was so nice for just the two of us to go out together.
The thing is now do I get another arab?I am 67 now.... would I find another like him.. he has left such a big hole...
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sammewl
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Posted - 10 Jul 2015 : 9:59:13 PM
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in a word yes!
when i lost my first cat i vowed i would never go through that hurt again. i spent 10 years bothering neighbours cats until I moved in with someone who had three. i immediately felt at home, felt i had been stupid - that i had missed out and a cat had missed out on me.
there are so many arabs around that are unwanted and surplus. if you take one in. the new horse will never fill the hole but will be itself and give joy in other ways, so the emptiness is no longer something that hurts. you are alive, so you are not old. make the most of your life - have an arab to confide in :)
sorry for your loss. getting another horse is never a replacment. see it as a tribute to DD.
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Pasch
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Posted - 10 Jul 2015 : 10:06:35 PM
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I am sorry about your loss.
I would say yes since you still ride and were thinking to ride for the next years,why not look for another one?There are so many "middle aged" or even older arabs (around the age of your boy) that for some reason are looking for a new home,often for free…
Of course you would never find one exactly like him-each horse is an individual,but that doesn't mean you couldn't love another one!
So good luck on your search!
edited to say Sammewl we posted at almost the same time and looks like we think alike! |
Edited by - Pasch on 10 Jul 2015 10:08:35 PM |
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Callisto
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Posted - 11 Jul 2015 : 08:32:01 AM
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I totally agree with Sammewi and Pasch, you are not ancient and if you hadn't tragically lost your boy you would still be riding and looking forward to continuing your relationship for years to come. There are so many middle aged and older Arabs who through no fault of their own need a loving home and are quite capable of being ridden for years to come. A new (and different) best friend is out there somewhere
My Mum is 73 and her beloved boy is 24, and they still enjoy hacking out, we also have our 25 year old mare who we bought at 18 as a school mistress, she loves to get out and about too. |
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barbara.gregory
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Posted - 11 Jul 2015 : 09:31:07 AM
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Definitely, fill the gap in your life. As the others have put it so well I won't even try but there are lots of horses looking for good homes in their twilight years and when you no longer ride they will be old horses who will enjoy a happy retirement with you.
Good luck, hope you find the perfect Arab. |
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glo
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Posted - 11 Jul 2015 : 09:46:05 AM
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One of my friends at 65 has just got a new horse, he is 18 now, she felt like you she may be to old! But when we were speaking she really wanted another horse, as I am straight talking, I told her in no uncertain terms, that if she didn't do it now, she would be to old to start riding again in 10 years time.
We found a lovely school master, and she loves it, she hadent riden for about 6 years.
Like others have said, look for a older horse one that's been there and done it, you can pick them for little money, go for what you like. Don't be tempted to go for a cob when your a Arab person. |
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FireLight
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Posted - 11 Jul 2015 : 10:06:03 AM
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| Agree with everyone else, go for it. Although you will never replace Desert Drifter there will be an Arab out there waiting to share your days as your new best friend. As my friend told me when I was in a similar position, as one door closes a new and different one will open. Good Luck |
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Goldenmane
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Posted - 11 Jul 2015 : 10:12:55 AM
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Oh yes, can you imagine a life without a beautiful Arabian to care for every day? I can't ride now but my life is fulfilled by the look in my boy's eye, and I bought him when I knew I was going to have my old mare pts. You won't find one like Desert Drifter but you will find one. |
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garnet
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Posted - 11 Jul 2015 : 6:12:39 PM
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| That's so sad - I lost my beautiful Anglo, Autumn Light, during surgery for a twisted gut and my husband's cob Jim 3 days after surgery for a pedunculated lipoma. 1987 and 2009 but still seems like yesterday. There is only one way forward -have another. Won't be another like him - I went looking for a 15hh Anglo, aged at least 6, Mikeno in the pedigree and came home with a newly backed under 14.2hh at maturity 4yo PBA who was with me for 23 years. If you want something a bit smaller than a pure-bred there are part-breds in sizes to suit everyone. I am 64 and disabled and compete in carriage driving as I can't ride fit to be seen but my 16hh PBA was a lovely carriage horse if you felt like going down that road - see sig pics. Best of luck with whatever you decide. |
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Ari
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Posted - 11 Jul 2015 : 6:49:02 PM
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| I lost Kate (Crabbet lady) after 27 years years together, we already had Ari for my daughter to start. We went for a gelding as my lady will always be my best girl. So I have another Arab treasure very different, wonderful journey of learning and such a great companion. You know and love your Arabs go for it!! |
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faymouse
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United Kingdom
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Posted - 12 Jul 2015 : 4:01:19 PM
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Thank you all.. the loss as some of you know when it comes too early is hard to take and become accustomed to. Prior to him I had Dorani from a yearling to 30 years old but she hadn't been so good in her latter years although losing her was dreadul too .
I am going to have a tentative look and see what is about..you cant beat the bond of an Arab horse . |
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heathermcbreen
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Posted - 15 Jul 2015 : 1:39:51 PM
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| I agree with all the others that say yes go for it... not just because you can give a horse a good life but for your sake too.... looking after a horse is physical exercise and gives you a reason and motivation to keep going and doing stuff rather than sitting by the fire watching telly..... although having said that .. it is quite appealing in the depths of winter.....I know people in their 70's who are really fit and active and seem like 50's but there are others who seem like 100 when they are only in their 50's ... make the most of your life..... but dont blame us when its frosty and freezing and you have to leave your warm bed early on a winters morning to see to your lovely horse...... go on you know you want to..... |
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Pasch
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zooscat
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Posted - 24 Jul 2015 : 05:19:17 AM
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| Dear Faymouse, have a look at my screed on Tea and Coffee: don't waste a moment of your precious life, or that of your next Arabian companion. You will know when you meet them. Best wishes and good luck. |
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