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white bryony
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United Kingdom

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Posted - 08 May 2009 :  9:05:23 PM  Show Profile Bookmark this topic Add white bryony to your friends list Send white bryony a Private Message
Hi, I dont get to chat on here much, but know its a great place to come to talk about anything!
So some of you may rember me talking about my then current boyfriend who is now an ex. He was verging on being an alcolic, could be nasty etc etc.
Well 11 months on I have finally plucked up the courage to report him to the police for harrassment.
I have put up with text msgs, changing my phone number, to him keep cycling (lost licence thru drink driving) past my house (at home with parents) taking down my step dads phone number -my car was advertised for sale, so step dad put his spare mob number on the add which ex assumed was my new number, so started bombarding step dad with txtx!!! trying to make me feel guilty by pretending his mum was dying, then his dad presumely died, then he admited he lied
Abusive voi9cemails, sometimes threatening, as well as declaring his love for me.
He then claimed to be his brother making out he was in a coma after a car crash, all lies. Then told me he only had 2 wks to live, was emigrating.
He came up with every lie possible to try and win me back, he would not listen to step dad who told him to stop contacting me, told him we would report him if he didnt stop, he just thew it back in our faces, thinking he had done nothing wrong.
He thinks he has some kind of right to send me flowers, letters and txt.
He also sent a friend of his to my place of work to bribe me to get back with ex.
He has left me totally freaked out, I dont trust many people, especially men. I wander if a stranger is a friend of his he has sent to look for me, I dont go out as much, as I have to make sure I can get accompanied back home safely.
Im doing a couple of college courses which I have to admit, my studies have suffered.

In the end he left me no choice but to see the police.
After showing them all my evidence, they thought he had gone too far for just a caution, so on wendsday he was arrested, he pleaded guilty to everything but apparently showed no remorse for what he had done/said.
The police forwarded evidence to the courts for them to decide what to do.
They decided to charge him with harrassment, he will be appearing in court in 2 wks time.
So now I can only hope this will all be over and I wont ever have to hear from him again. I just hope I can stop freaking out about stuff.
He has made me nervous of even being in my own home, whether I am in company or on my own.
I am lucky to have a lovely family.
I am known as the shy one, but im not really, I just find it difficult at times, and not everyone understands.

Emma
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Acorn Arabians
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United Kingdom
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Posted - 08 May 2009 :  11:20:59 PM  Show Profile Bookmark this reply Add Acorn Arabians to your friends list Send Acorn Arabians a Private Message
The british justice system isnt a total waste of space then. Good for you Emma, ****s like this need to pay for what they have done, onwards and upwards girl, it will take u a while to relax and adjust but believe me when you do its the best feeling. You were his victim dont continue to let him rule your life now hes gone, best wishes to you.
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moatside
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England
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Posted - 09 May 2009 :  06:15:50 AM  Show Profile Bookmark this reply Add moatside to your friends list Send moatside a Private Message
Well done for making the decision to take control.

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Ennik
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Posted - 09 May 2009 :  08:57:08 AM  Show Profile  Send Ennik an AOL message Bookmark this reply Add Ennik to your friends list Send Ennik a Private Message
Good on you! I spent 30 odd years married to a psycho who tried to put me into a mental hospital! He hated his mother and I had to suffer the fate he'd have liked for her! However, times have changed - and for the better. Women don't have to put up with it any more. Why are so many men loco in some respect or another. Perhaps it's got someting to do with the hormones. Good on you, glad you got out. Things wouldn't have changed ..... Rose Ennik
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geegee
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England
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Posted - 09 May 2009 :  09:28:37 AM  Show Profile Bookmark this reply Add geegee to your friends list Send geegee a Private Message
Well done, you!

You can finally be rid of him and move on with your life. Take it slowly and you will gradually start to trust other people. Don't put too much pressure on yourself, you have done great up to this point and things can and will get better.

Good luck, you deserve it

Lisa
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ashabarab
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England
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Posted - 09 May 2009 :  5:25:47 PM  Show Profile Bookmark this reply Add ashabarab to your friends list Send ashabarab a Private Message
well done
you did the right thing by taking control of the situation
no one has the right to treat you like he did
now you can look forward to starting a life free from him and make new friends

ash
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sarahlock
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England
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Posted - 09 May 2009 :  7:06:43 PM  Show Profile Bookmark this reply Add sarahlock to your friends list Send sarahlock a Private Message
Well done Emma
What a nightmare you`ve had & thank God the Police do actually sit up & take notice now !
I had to report my X to the police last september even though i threw him out 6 yrs before as he was txting my house phone , hes also an alcoholic & so is his present girlfriend, the police are constantly being called to their house because of domestics !
Men like that are weak & have no control over themselves so they think they can control us instead ....NOT A CHANCE !


Brixham (South Devon )
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Goldenmane
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Posted - 09 May 2009 :  7:14:23 PM  Show Profile Bookmark this reply Add Goldenmane to your friends list Send Goldenmane a Private Message
Absolutley well done you stay addicted to horses, much simpler! Glad you have such a supportive family.

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ali bali
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Posted - 09 May 2009 :  9:18:32 PM  Show Profile Bookmark this reply Add ali bali to your friends list Send ali bali a Private Message
Well done Emma, it takes a lot of courage to stand up for yourself and take control of the situation in the way you did. In time you will be able to use that same courage to move on and find yourself a nicer partner, they are out there, I promise!

Alison
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tut 99
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Posted - 09 May 2009 :  10:39:44 PM  Show Profile Bookmark this reply Add tut 99 to your friends list Send tut 99 a Private Message
yes they are out there , you deserve one .
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jacki
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Posted - 10 May 2009 :  11:02:25 AM  Show Profile  Send jacki an AOL message  Click to see jacki's MSN Messenger address Bookmark this reply Add jacki to your friends list Send jacki a Private Message
well done hope you start to feel more confident again soon you have taken the 1st step!

sittingbourne kent
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Kelly
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England
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Posted - 11 May 2009 :  5:42:32 PM  Show Profile Bookmark this reply Add Kelly to your friends list Send Kelly a Private Message
Good for you Emma, I am so pleased that the police are doing something.

Hopefully now you can start to get some closure.

Hugs for being brave enough to fight back.
x

Kelly
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white bryony
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United Kingdom
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Posted - 27 May 2009 :  09:15:11 AM  Show Profile Bookmark this reply Add white bryony to your friends list Send white bryony a Private Message
Thanx for the lovely comments. It really does help talking about it.

well just to update that he was charged with harrassment and will be going back in a couple of wks where he will be given a restraining order.
Lets hope he gets the message now and leaves me alone!

Emma
Salsifis
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Acorn Arabians
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United Kingdom
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Posted - 28 May 2009 :  09:44:37 AM  Show Profile Bookmark this reply Add Acorn Arabians to your friends list Send Acorn Arabians a Private Message
I agree nice partners are out there, you will know when the time is right in the meantime dont punish the entire male population. They arent all the same.
Glad its helped you to bring it out in the open.
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